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So which hat are you wearing today and are you being your TRUE self.


There are many writings about your true self and how you connect to it. To me being connected to your true self is important although I appreciate its not always that easy.

I don’t know about you but its very evident to me when I am being my true self I feel at one with myself things flow and everything seems easier about life.

However if at times you find yourself not being connected with your true self (maybe in a work or social circle)  where your values principles decision making process may be being controlled you can find yourself feeling un easy, not at one with yourself and everything seems so much harder. You may be suffering from inner conflict with your head telling you one thing and your heart screaming another.

It’s important to discover your true self!. Many people maybe don’t realise how much strength, resource and power resides within us, which is not necessarily our everyday self that gets mixed up with all the day-to-day activities of life, but a deeper self, as I’ve been referring to and which psychologists often refer to as “the true self

The true self isn’t a familiar term to many people, although it is interpreted by many as what some religions refer to as your soul, the purest part of yourself, you real essence. To different people their true self means different things but that’s just a label it’s the fundamental  principle of being able to connect to your true self that’s important. When you connect with your true self you

See hear and feel differently the world seems a better place and it could be termed you are in the zone.

The trick is distinguishing what is your true self and what is not. Are we responding to baggage we have picked up in life, are we behaving in response to what life has thrown at us, or other external influences? If we had a switch that could turn off the everyday self and turn on the true self, matters would be much simpler. But human nature is often divided. There are moments when you feel secure, accepted, peaceful, and certain. At those moments you may well be experiencing the true self. At other moments you experience the opposite, and then you are potentially in the grip of something else, or perhaps what gets referred to often as the ego-self. The trouble is that both sides are convincing. When you feel overwhelmed by stress, crisis, doubts, and insecurity, the true self might as well not exist. You are experiencing a different reality coloured by your feelings and the state of your mind.

How can we distinguish between true self and outside self

1) The true self is certain and clear about things. The everyday self gets influenced by countless outside influences, and may be confused..

2) The true self is stable. The everyday self is constantly moving..

3) The true self is driven by a deep sense of truth. The everyday self is driven by the ego, the unending demands of “I, me, mine.”

4) The true self is at peace. With himself/herself The everyday self is easily agitated.

5) The true self is one of love. and acceptance The everyday self, often lacking the same sort of love, seeks it from outside sources.

Once you begin to recognise and encourage the qualities of the true self, your life will begin to change. You’ll make better choices. You’ll expand your awareness. You’ll discover and encourage your purpose and everything will become easier.

So how do you discover your true self and live in accordance with it?

Acceptance is key,we are all doing the best we can with what we have available and we can’t do any more..Find some time to be with your true self, disconnect from the distractions of everyday life, social media,TV etc etc ,be kind to yourself and acknowledge everything is going to be ok.

If you would like help in trying to find your true self maybe contact a therapist spend some time reflecting and this I can guarantee will help

Have a great week

Rob D

Further articles writen by Rob can be found .. Here


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