Happiness. What is Happiness, and how do we find it?
Happiness comes in so many different forms it can be hard to recognise. Unhappiness, on the other hand, comes easy! You know when it’s around you, and you definitely know when it has taken hold of you.
Happiness has less to do with our particular circumstances than you may think; it is what we make of our circumstances that determine whether or not we are happy. When it comes to you being happy you need to learn what works for you. Everyone is different, and once you have ‘cracked the code’ – so to speak – you will find happiness.
So what do happy people do that we can learn to do ourselves and thus, hopefully, make ourselves significantly happier? Below are a few pointers –
- They don’t obsess over things they can’t control. This is one of the major causes of anxiety. Yet what you can’t control you have no real influence over; so why stress?
- They get enough sleep. I cannot stress enough the importance of getting plenty of sleep; and I for one feel under par if I haven’t had my eight hours.
- They heed their moral compass, following their values. Violating your own personal standards may well create feelings of regret, dissatisfaction and demotivation. So know when to stand your ground and stick to your principles and values.
- Exercise. Exercise. We all know the importance of exercise, but how many of us practise it? Exercising releases the Happy Hormones and makes us feel good.
- Happy people have a growth mind set. They look at the half full option, and always look at how they can improve things or situations.
- They give back. It’s no secret that if you give to, or help someone, you feel much better. So get out and ‘do’ some helping! It will improve your happiness.
- They let their strengths flow. What does this mean? When engrossed in a project or task happy people loose awareness of time, being ‘lost’ in that project or task. Allowing their strengths to flow, they are ‘at one’ with themselves. Being in the flow brings happiness and fulfilment.
- They have an optimistic mind set. The best is yet to come. Happy people are optimistic about the future, believing in the great things that are yet to come.
- They live in the here and now. Living in the present helps us to be grounded and to be happier with our lot.
To conclude. Applying some, if not all, of these strategies will improve not only your happiness, but also your mental health and wellbeing. With the winter months fast approaching, the time when some people suffer with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) – also known as ‘Winter Depression’ – why not start applying some of these strategies now; I guarantee they will help you find happiness in life and will take you through to spring.
Rob Donnelly is a Cognitive Hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, helping people find happier lives.
Further information can be found at www.robdonnellytherapy.com